There have been some bumps in the road and some times when she wasn’t sure how to love Winn-D without diminishing what she had with her mommy.
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Their mother dropped over dead, unexpectantly, in her early 50's. I just feel like an outsider that will never be let in.
I've tried to be supportive to them, respecting their loss, knowing that I will never take the place of their mother (nor would I want to) but I would like to be able to get to know them better and be their friend. After 3 yrs of being with their father I feel like a relationship with his kids is like beating my head against the wall!
He’s a recent widower (wife died of cancer in June 2010.) We started dating just after Labor Day. We live about an hour and 1/2 apart and he has a very high level job and a big house to take care of (and a dog.) There has been no sex yet but lots of “foreplay.” He says he always waits to have sex until he’s more sure of the woman.
I want to see more of him at this point (3 months,) especially on Saturday nights.
I made that need known last weekend in a calm, rational way.
In your book, you said that if a guy isn’t seeing you more than once a week by the 3 months point, he probably isn’t interested in a serious relationship.
Unfortunately, the two of those things are contradictory in my life, as I have found that the time to quit writing is directly tied to a serious relationship.
I tried this last Christmas, worked for days in the kitchen, only for my husband to get a phone call one hour prior to dinner that his daughter was sick and couldn't make it..her family was going to come. When the outings aren't sucessfull, meaning not everyone shows up or if we don't see them for awhile then she lays on a guilt trip to her father..stating we just don't get to see one another. I told my husband when we married that we would have to live in my house (I already had it paid for) that I couldn't live in his house that he shared with his wife.
We have tried to plan camping outings, some succesfull, but if I try to cook something to help out it is never eaten. We live only 1/2 hr away from the daughter, have always encouraged them to come our house. On our second wedding anniversary his son called (I'm sure he didn't realize it was our anniversary) and asked him to come over because my husband had been wanting him to do some maintance on his truck. When he moved out I was the one that suggested he take both of his adult children to his house (no one else aloowed!
My question is this – does this apply to widowers as well or is it fair to give him a little more time and just get busy with other things so I don’t put pressure on him?
He says he has always taken it slow in dating and this is nothing new.