Earlier this year, the guy I am currently dating–who would be proud to label himself a “geek guy”–forwarded this article to me (How To Date A Geek Guy: Offensive Advice Or a Smart How-To For Women? Being objectified and stereotyped, and dehumanized in the process, is not strictly a topic for frustrated feminist rants. This article addresses the idea that it may not be offensive, but rather helpful to women in understanding more about how geeky guys work. It encourages stereotypes and learning how to pretend to be someone you’re not in order to attract someone you have to work to click with.You’ll have to excuse me while I laugh at that double-standard. The alternative (realizing that successful relationships are about organically bonding with someone who seems like a natural match) is a lot more difficult and doesn’t sell magazines or garner traffic.Moreover, while nerd-dom has become mainstream (even cool), it didn’t used to be, and many a nerd grew up suffering at the hands of dumb guys or b*tchy girls. Yeah, it’s a bit cheesy, but there’s a reason this franchise was so amazingly popular: it has memorable characters (including a strong woman), lots of good humor, and a cosmic theme that appeals to everyone. I have gotten non-nerd friends (male and female) hooked on BSG.To succeed with him, show him you aren’t one of those people and that he’s awesome the way he is. It has none of the cheesiness of Star Trek and everything it lacked: sex, violence, drama, very strong women, and seriously hot guys. In many ways, relating to a nerdy guy isn’t all that different from relating to a non-nerd; he just has different toys.was first applied to anyone boring, socially awkward or uncool.
It’s simply because I look to fill my world with compatible spirits.Love him for who he is, and he will be a loyal partner.More at Your Tango: What to do when he says ‘I’m not in love with you.’ How a relationship is like pregnancy! A majority of the fifty articles on this topic I’ve come across over the past few months have been less than enlightened, and advocate people relinquishing any sense of self-identity and self-respect to attract a certain type of person.In fact, when I inquired about blogging for the team here, they were excited to have a non-geek on board. My current boyfriend is a total nerd too, but I almost gave up on our relationship after our first date because he hadn’t read George Orwell’s 1. If you’re a Trekkie, but you discover that the nerd you’re dating hasn’t even seen a clip of Star Trek on You Tube, don’t immediately guffaw.